Why You Are ‘Ripped’ And Why Your ‘Friends’ Are Not (Negative B*****ds)

August 2, 2010 by  
Filed under The Fitness Bug

That’s your fat friend who wishes he was you

”NO, You can’t do that”

”NO! You can’t do this”

”NO! You can’t, you can’t, you can’t, you can’t, you can’t!”

Is that something you hear from your friends on a regular basis?

If so, I have some news for you…


Because deep down, they are are all losers and have never been able to commit 100% to anything they put their mind to.

What’s even worse is that they magically decide to put YOU down, the moment you decide to make an effort to better yourself.


How crap is that?

Aren’t they supposed to be ‘friends’?

Golden Oldie

Keep your friends close and your enemies closer!

The funny thing about this ‘attitude’ is that they aren’t actually insulting YOU. (huh?)

They are just vomiting out the disgust of their own insecurities and fear of feeling inferior to someone who currently shares the same ‘social status’ as they do.

But guess what?

You don’t have time for that. You need to succeed, and that’s with everything you put your mind to.


And it starts with the people you associate with.

Take this test

  1. Look at your 5 closest friends.
  2. Analyze their lifestyle and what they have achieved to date, personally and professionally.

= A direct reflection of who YOU are TODAY!

If you are happy with the result of that test, then you are in a good place. If not, then…


”Don’t ever let somebody tell you… You can’t do something. Not even me. All right? You got a dream… You gotta protect it. People can’t do somethin’ themselves, they wanna tell you you can’t do it. If you want somethin’, go get it. Period” The pursuits of Happiness (Source: IMDB)

Now, this dilemma can be related to almost any scenario in life, but the reason why I brought this up here is because this dilemma is at the heart and foundation of what we call self improvement. And fitness, bodybuilding and the lifestyle is based on that.

  • Improving ones mindset
  • Improving ones body
  • Improving ones health and well being
  • Improving ones lifestyle
  • And more…

But today we are just going to talk about the effects that this scenario has on us in regards to fitness and building a better body, which I would say, is where the most devastating of comments occur which destroys peoples,

  • Mentality
  • Physical appearance
  • Self esteem
  • Confidence

Now let’s point out some factors that may be serve as the root of those negative comments from those ‘losers’.

  • Age – You’re too old to start bodybuilding and getting into shape (Yea, right!)
  • Sex – Females – No, you can’t start lifting weights. You’ll end up looking like a man (Not necessarily)
  • Genes – Your family is big boned, just like you. You will never look like that guy/ gal from that magazine (Body types don’t really exist anyway)
  • Too ugly (We aren’t all blessed with good looks. However, beauty is in the eye of the beholder (Did you know that losing weight can actually make you better looking?)

Natalie Cassidy

There are probably many others, but it all represents the same thing. A loser criticizing you when in fact, they probably suffer from a number of human defaults themselves (Damn human freak mutants, how dare they! The cheek of it all).

I remember back when I first started to hit the weights. I can tell you now, I had a whole bunch of haters! In fact, I knew they were haters before that, which is why I tested them on my rise to chiseled man glory.

You see, as a hardgainer, it’s very easy to disguise yourself as a person that has no muscles what so ever when fully clothed. So what I did was hide my body for 6-8 weeks, while working my ass off, training insane and building monster sized muscles.

At the end of the 8 weeks I stood inside the changing rooms in the gym while all my ‘friends’ were in there. I took of my t-shirt, purposely walked around. And the reaction I got?


Obviously they were shocked, and there was some congratulation to some degree. But it didn’t take long until the negative comments started to come out.

”Oh, oh… but your back is too small’

”Oh, oh, but you need to work on this, you need to work on that”

What the… shut the hell up! I am supremely shredded, you are not… hush!

Of course there is such thing has friendly banter and ‘hate’ and after that day there was the odd joke..

”Dude, don’t rip your shirt off while standing next to me, I’m not at that level yet”

But in general, it was negative comments.

Now I wouldn’t say my situation was as bad as people not wanting me to progress further than they were. But in many cases it is. Once it gets like that, or when your core group of ‘friends’ act like that towards you. Take a walk. You’re better off being a lone ranger for a short while than be held back by a loser bunch.


Yes men are just as the title states. People that agree to everything you do or say. In fact, those are arguably the worst kind of friends.

  1. They either look up to you and treat you like a GOD, and perceive everything that you say as ‘correct’. No questions asked.
  2. They are the loser that will say yes to something you are trying, even when they know what your trying actually sucks! (Deadly)

You don’t need either of these types of people in your circle. Both are bad. You need people that have succeeded to some degree (Built a 6 Pac/ Won some bodybuilding competitions/ Trained people into successfully building a better body).


Because these people would have adapted a positive mindset throughout their journey. And they will understand the importance and beauty of imperfection and the importance of constructive criticism. They wouldn’t have achieved what they have so far if they didn’t have that mindset.

”Don’t let the uneducated ruin your dreams, educate the (not necessarily negative)”

5 Reasons Why You Need to Build a Strong Bodybuilding Network


I have been to my fair share of networking events, and the scientific rule still applies…

”People make there core judgments of you within the first 5 seconds of meeting you”

”At least 90% of communication is not done with the mouth” (Body language)

So first impressions are super important here.

Picture this scenario

Yourself and stranger at a networking event.

You tell them your big goal (e.g be the next Ronnie Coleman).

You could well and be. But that’s bound to draw a negative reaction from most.

Be more realistic and specific when you speak.

”First you need your inspiration, and you should not be satisfied with anything less than your ideal. Keep working toward that ideal with small, achievable goals. Each time you achieve one more goal toward your ideal, you will get a boost of motivation as your reward.”

(Broken down goals as stated above) Set a time frame on how you go about hitting each goal.

That way when you speak you sound more credible. You could probably draw some feedback from them, and they might even refer you into someone in their network.

So you see, sometimes, you could be the cause of that negative reaction. Not everyone is negative. If you face the above scenario, do the above, get feedback and attempt to turn a potential negative scenario into a positive. If the person still acts like an A**hole, just walk away. Because things may get heated, you may draw attention to yourself and people might not be able to tell who the idiot is.

Identify the idiot.. but don’t ever argue with an idiot. People might not be able to tell the difference!

Keep away from all the hateful and the envious.


Life really will be on the ‘up’ once you have found positivity in your life by eliminating the negativity that we talked about earlier. Your mindset will be new and fresh, you will draw inspiration from the positive people in your network. And success may start breeding success.

The main reason I brought this topic up is because the fitness industry…

  • Female bodybuilders
  • Fitness models
  • Gyms full of undercover angry testosterone driven alpha males
  • Non-believers

Is full of scenarios like this. Yes, there is a lot of positivity within the industry, but it also consists of a lot of the above.

The main thing to take away from all of this is that you can achieve what ever you put your mind to and no one out there can tell you sh*t!

Negative comments from losers and non-believers have destroyed many a dream since the creation of man/ woman. Just don’t EVER let them destroy yours.

Some motivational statements from myself and a few close others.

“Motivation will last for a few hours, like a cup of coffee… inspiration, if done right, can last a lifetime”

”First you need your inspiration, and you should not be satisfied with anything less than your ideal. Keep working toward that ideal with small, achievable goals. Each time you achieve one more goal toward your ideal, you will get a boost of motivation as your reward.”

”Inspiration and Motivation are twins that often arrive together and bring a purpose and energy to your training that no supplements on earth can give!”

”Motivation is always there (like a match). Sometimes dormant. Inspiration is the spark that will light that match. Partners in crime making great use of your time.”

To all our bodybuilding successes.

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